2013- Lessons Learned

This post is a little different than most. I've had a really hard time writing lately because there have been some changes and circumstances that have really challenged my thinking. They've caused me to review who I believe and WHO I believe my God to be.

I'm not sure that this will all make perfect sense but writing often helps me sort out my own thoughts.

In February, we lost Ryan's grandmother.  You had to know Ma to understand what this loss was like. She was so special to me.  I called her my BF.  She was one of the few who, I felt like understood me and my life.  She had mothered 5 children and lived to tell about it.  She was amazing about understanding what a day in life of a mom of many was like.  She had this balance about understanding and not just sugarcoating motherhood.  So often I've had people with 2 or 3 kids tell me what a joy motherhood always is and how they're never tired or fried. Those people and their comments caused me to often feel like there was something wrong with me, for at times feeling like I was barely staying above water.  I would call Ma at like 10 pm knowing she'd still be up and after a hard day she'd have some funny story that would help me remember that it was all going to be ok.  I remember after one rough day her telling me that she had once thrown two of the kids clothes out all over the front lawn cause they hadn't cleaned the room like she asked.  She always reminded me that even though it may not be funny at the time there was something to laugh at. Ma lived a full life and there was great comfort in that, she was ok with going to heaven. It hurt and I miss her but it was a loss I could process. 

Lesson learned- love like Ma. She never belittled my day, but she always made me laugh at my day.  Please help others to always see the joy, but don't minimize someone else's experiences.

In July, I turned 30!!! And I also found out I was pregnant with number 8!!!! Well, thirty wasn't such a big deal.  I had to face the fact that I hadn't accomplished all that I had planned to by 30! I still have a book that's not quite finished.  I hadn't made my first million. I still have a lot to do!  The pregnancy thing really sent me for a loop.  I love babies, a lot.  I love the cuddle time, I love the smell, I love the sweet reminder of the amazing potential contained in each little life. But honestly, I've always put quite a bit of pressure on myself when it comes to parenting.  In my option, it's the most important job a person can have and there is no redo button.  And at times that scares me.  I want to make sure that I do it well, because these little people are going to create more little people and I want to leave a Godly legacy.  

Lesson learned- there's no mistake that is too big for my God. I need to focus less on perfect parenting and more on loving God. As I fall more in love with Him, He'll be able to move and make the changes in me that need to happen. 

In October, I received the worse call I've ever received. My BFF ( Shannon), was on the other line and I could barely understand her. I could make out that she was at the hospital with her oldest son, Christiano.  Long story short, he was involved in a horrible accident and sustained injuries that claimed his life. He was only 18.  The kids and I drove up and were there as fast as I could make it.  I can not even describe the hurt and pain in my friend and her family. I was so glad to be able to be there through the services and do what I could to help, but it was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through and it wasn't even my child. I still don't have all the answers I'd like. I feel like I have so little to offer, and that is why I haven't been writing.  Everything seems so small in comparison to an early death. 

Lesson learned - I need to be sure that I KNOW God's character and word fully.  This world and the circumstances within it try to shape God for us, we can't allow that to happen.  I also learned its ok to not know what to do or say and its better to say nothing than something stupid. It's in those moments that depending on His Spirit is enough.  I saw so many well meaning people just say some stupid things.  Telling a grieving parent that they are going to see their child again, is not always helpful.  Let His spirit lead your words so that they are able to bring the healing you desire and not more hurt. 

In November, we started bday season in our house. It felt weird to go back to normal when I got home from RI.  My kids had birthdays and I felt like my heart was still in RI.  

Our oldest turned 10!!! And although I was excited for her, the scary thought arose that my time to invest in her is limited. She is growing up. I was wondering if I have instilled enough in her?  This question reminded me that I need to trust God more.  

She went to her first concert, and she was just so excited.  I was too! I love when I have the opportunity to watch anyone do what they were made to do.  This artist is famous and has been around for years. His ability to influence others for Christ only came about from him allowing God to use him and being confident in WHO God was to him.  

Lesson learned - embrace everyday. Live each day to the fullest and don't compare your walk or call to anyone else's.  If you do, you'll miss the GREAT plans he has for you!  We'll only be able to influence others for Christ, to the fullest, when we are comfortable in being who He made us to be.

In December, we had an opportunity to have our friends spend Christmas with us.  We have only had one of my sisters here for one Christmas in the 3 years we've been here, so having company was super special.  We were all excited to have the company, but it was hard because they were only coming here because of their son passing.  They were coming here to do something different.  We were so excited to have them, even if the circumstances weren't the best.  I wanted so badly to make everything perfect, but I didn't know how. I couldn't give them the one thing they wanted, their son and brother back.  

Lesson learned-  sometimes just being there is all you can offer others who are hurting.  It's ok to be honest and say you don't know why something's happen.  It's ok to tell God you don't understand and it's ok to move forward with doubts or concerns.  God can handle it all. 

As I look forward to 2014, I am thankful for my God who is patient with me. His grace is enough for every situation I will face.  I don't have to understand everything, I just need to trust the One who does.     I need to run to Him with all my questions, all my doubts, all my concerns about the future, and not allow any situation to separate me from Him. He alone is my hope for the future. 

Distractions, Confusion, and Priorities

I've been hiding!  I came in saw the date of the last post and thought, not good!  Have you ever gone through one of those times, where it just seems like the world around you is drawing on more than you have to offer?

I've been there.  It seems that with homeschooling, normal parenting, new pets, pregnancy, and church work, I've just been being pulled on!  I was getting bummed out and just feeling like I couldn't keep up.  God is just so gracious to us! He let's us try and work things out in our own strength, and then when we are at our end He's right there willing to step in and help. The crazy thing is He's always been right there, we were just not aware of Him or choosing to draw on Him.  Instead of running to Him with all things I was just focusing on the 'things'.  We can not loose focus of the source of our strength and expect that we can continue on strong. 

Zechariah 4:6b - Not by might, nor by power, but by my Spirit says the Lord of hosts.

It is easy in those times of working out of our own strength to become confused and start questioning things that we really shouldn't.  The devil is a smart advisory, he often waits till we are weak and not functioning in the Spirit to attack us.  The Bible compares him to a lion.  A lion doesn't go after the strong, healthy prey, it looks for the young, the weak, the tired, or the hurt.  

God's been working with me on re-focusing.  Sometimes we go through a hard time and think its time to quit and just hide.  But through this challenging time, God's been showing me that sometimes our responsibilities don't need to change its our attitude or perspective that needs to be adjusted.  We can't always just quit a job cause its hard or quit parenting cause we are tired =) Sometimes its just a matter of rearranging the order of our priorities, in our hearts.  

I can't change my responsibilities right now, nor do I think that is what God wants. But I did have to do some adjusting in my heart.  In my heart I had let somethings get out of balance, and that is where I want to encourage you to look. Sometimes we have to just pause for a day or two and really seek God and regain His perspective on our lives.

Proverbs 4:23-  Keep your heart with all diligence; for out of it flows the issues of life.

We have to exercise diligence when it comes to the things of our heart.  So we really have to take the time to evaluate and adjust the things going on in our heart. We can be doing the best of things, but have our priorities mixed up on the inside. God is clear about the order of things in our life and the need for that order.  He doesn't want us rushing to church screaming at our kids so that we can be there early to serve!  Now that doesn't mean you don't belong serving!  But it does mean that we have to make the adjustments in our hearts and our lives to make that a smooth time for everyone involved. He'll lead us in ways to make even the most impossible task doable all we have to do is ask=)

Enjoy your week to the fullest!  Don't let the responsibilities distract you from the joy that is found in even the smallest of things. 

Matthew 11:30 - For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

I heard this quote this week,  'The matter of the heart is the heart of the matter.'

What do YOU want Him to do for you and your family?!?!

Mark 10:51 “What do you want me to do for you?” Jesus asked him.

For some reason this verse just came alive to me this morning. I'm sure that I've read it before and have probably even heard teachings on it, but today it was NEW!  I know for myself I often struggle with going before God confidently and even struggle with confidence when it comes to my parenting.  I have those questioning thoughts about whether or not I'm doing it right or am I missing something.  Often times that lack of confidence spills over even into decisions, prayers, and things I'm believing God for in regards to my children.  

When Jesus was walking (Mark 10) Bartimaeus was begging on the roadside. 


⁴⁶ Then they came to Jericho. As Jesus and his disciples, together with a large crowd, were leaving the city, a blind man, Bartimaeus (which means “son of Timaeus”), was sitting by the roadside begging. ⁴⁷ When he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to shout, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!”

Bartimaeus took action!  He knew that his opportunity for deliverance was passing by him.  Sometimes when we are parenting we need to be wise enough and humble enough to cry out to Jesus.  He already knows how we are feeling, so why not run to Him FIRST.  Its easy to ask others (and not that there is anything wrong with Godly counsel), the people we can see but I encourage you to run with a quickness to the One who made your child. He knows best how you can or should be parenting them.  

The next thing about this story I love is that people rebuked him!!  There have been so many times that others have rebuked us for the size of our family, the diversity of our family, the timing of our family, and the things we have chosen to believe God to supply.  But Batimaeus didn't care!!  He shouted all the more. He was confident that Jesus had what he needed and no one was going to stop him from getting it!  

⁴⁸ Many rebuked him and told him to be quiet, but he shouted all the more, “Son of David, have mercy on me!”

Jesus was recognized his faith and stopped.  Your faith will catch God's eye! When Jesus called him 'he jumped to his feet and went to him', sometimes I think I need to JUMP when Jesus tells me something.  I know I have, at times, looked at the things God has given me to do with a sort of dread or negative outlook on the work that will be involved. Our attitudes have so much to do with how much we are willing to receive from God.  He is willing and already has given us all things, but we'll only experience what we are willing to receive. 

⁴⁹ Jesus stopped and said, “Call him.”
So they called to the blind man, “Cheer up! On your feet! He’s calling you.” ⁵⁰ Throwing his cloak aside, he jumped to his feet and came to Jesus.

Jesus sees this man standing before him, I can't imagine that Jesus couldn't tell he was blind. Yet, He still asked 'What do you want me to do for you?'. Why did He do that?  This is what God showed me, Jesus had to find out what this man was believing to receive.  Jesus already knew that He could heal the man's sight, but what if this man only wanted a meal, a job, or money.  I think this is where it is so important that we KNOW what we are believing God for, whether its changes in our children, finances, wisdom in an area, a new car or a used car, new friends, or healing.  And the great thing with God is we can be completely honest with Him and He is going to love us regardless.  Maybe you know someone who has received something that just blows your mind away.  It can be easy to think, 'I'll never be there. Their arm grew back and I still struggle believing God that my headache will do away'. I firmly believe that we can take the testimonies of God's goodness in other people's lives and get excited!!  If He did it for them, He can do it for you, just step out confidently and specifically and tell Him what you want.  Just start exercising that faith muscle. God will meet you right where you are, that I can promise.  I've started just believing God for things that might seem silly to others, but that make my life easier and He's totally been meeting me there. I want to be so full of Him that I can walk about to someone in a wheelchair and see them be completely healed, but I'm not there yet.  The best news of all is, although I may not 'be there yet' I am stretching to get there and am confident that the more I give God the more of Him I'll have in me to give to others. 

⁵¹ “What do you want me to do for you?” Jesus asked him.
The blind man said, “Rabbi, I want to see.”

Bartimaeus knew what he wanted.  He didn't go up to Jesus and say 'whatever your will is Lord'; no, he walked up to Him and said I want to see!  

⁵² “Go,” said Jesus, “your faith has healed you.” Immediately he received his sight and followed Jesus along the road.

Bartimaeus' faith is what opened the door for him to receive his blessing. This week as you are going through life, allow your faith to usher in your blessing.  If you are believing for a heart change in a child, stand believing for that specific thing.  I pray specifically for my children's hearts to be soft to the things of God and even toward my husband and I.  I ask God to show me what order to do things in throughout the day, especially when it comes to teaching the kids. The other day I was praying for God to show me how to rearrange my house so that things would flow better.  Do you know that not 2 hours later He gave me a plan?!?!  It was something I had NEVER ever thought of and we've been moving things all day and its really amazing how much better this layout works.  He is faithful.  Welcome Him in, trust Him with where you and your family are at, and specifically tell Him what you are believing for from Him.  Enjoy your week!!

<3 Faythe

Grace - for Moms and kids :)

His grace is sufficient for me.  And for you :) Have you ever felt like you are at the end of your rope or your have all the straw on your back that you can handle?!? I'm sure we've all been there a time or two, and probably more than that and more than we'd like to admit.

  I was faced with a situation this week that just took me off guard and I found myself leaning toward my own understanding and we all know that takes us places we don't really want to go. I had to remind myself that God is never surprised by the things that surprise us. Our family situations, the news, the world economy, and anything else you can think of, He already knows.  So remember this, that in our weakness He is made strong when we surrender to Him. Don't waste time beating your head up against a wall, seek Him.  All too often we seek God when we have run out of options, well this week a lets try and run to Him first. He is a good God and understands us better than anyone. 

  Also, know that the same grace that God gives us to get through situations is the same grace that we can extend to others.  Our children's are only with us for a short amount of time, lets not stress them out by not extending grace and placing unrealistic expectations on them.  Remember to teach progress NOT perfection.  I know in the midst of my day it can be way too easy to get frustrated by one of the kids not completing a task that was asked of them or not finishing their school work, or struggling with a behavior that I just want to stop. But His grace is sufficient for them too, and we as parents need to reach our children that perfection is not possible. We strive for the best that we can do at the time with what we know. Also, try to teach that we always want to be growing and maturing, but that perfection is not a part of real life, the sooner we teach our children that the faster and easier it will be for them to focus on growth. By teaching them to look for growth not perfect, we are helping them to be confident young people who are willing to try.  They can 'rest' in knowing that although they may not be perfect, they are moving forward giving God their best and they are trying.  There are so many adults in this life that haven't ever learned that.  They end up stuck places because they're fear of failing keeps them from trying. 

  He can handle us at all times and can calm us and comfort us like no one else.  

Enjoy your week and lean on Him MORE SOONER. Remember that your little ones are watching show you handle situations, teach them now to RUN to God with them first.  <3

The desires of YOUR heart!

Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalms 37:4

God goodness is just amazing. I want to share something that God did for me this week. Please know that in my sharing this my goal is to bring all the glory to God. He is no respecter of persons and what He does for me He is more than able and willing to do for another. That being said, I am so excited to share this story.

As many of you know, we breed Golden Retrievers as a source of income for me since I'm a mostly stay at home mom. We have to keep the puppies till they are 8 weeks due to our state laws here and by the end of those 8 weeks, I'm telling you, I'm done with poop.  I have 2 children who still need helping wiping, a baby in diapers, and 9 puppies who not only poop but like to run through their poop! I really enjoy having the puppies and the kids love it, but it is lots of work. 

I was feeling a little discouraged because the income generated from this litter that just went home was not being stretched as much as I had planned. We just have some pretty large needs and even with all the puppies sold we still had some things we needed to take care of. I had to remind myself that the puppies were not my source, God and God alone is and He doesn't need the puppies! 

I still want to be the best steward of what God brings into our home. So, I had a plan for all the puppy income. It was all laid out and planned before we even had the puppies all sold.  God showed us when we started this business that it was a means for us not only to make money but to bless others. And again, I'm sharing this not for our own glory but so that the sowing and reaping makes sense. So there have been several times that God has shown us a family or a family has called us who have a need or desire for a puppy, but due to finances are not able to purchase a puppy.  This litter we had a family who had been on our waiting list for serval months and had planned to purchase a puppy from us. The week before we were suppose to have them come out and select their puppy they contacted us to let us know that they just couldn't go through with the purchase. The Dad had been disabled for years and the financial toll it was taking on the family was just a lot.  And even though they had saved up the money for the puppy they knew there would be additional costs and were having a hard time justifying the purchase.

Have you ever had one of those moments that you know beyond a shadow of a doubt what you are suppose to do? Well, after reading her email I knew that we needed to give her a puppy. My brain didn't like that thought, not that I didn't want to bless her, I just knew that my own family had needs. So I decided to call Ryan and tell him about the situation and what the lady had said to me.  I never told him what God had told me.  He is a very no nonsense kinda guy and I figured he would just say 'ok, just go to the next person on the waiting list'. Well he didn't the minute I told him he said, 'we need to give them the puppy'. 

And at that point I had to make a decision was I going to trust God and obey or do what made sense to my mind. It wasn't just a choice in obedience but also in attitude. I could happily give the puppy trusting that God never asks something of us for us to lose out, He always asks us to give so that He can bless us more.

So, we contacted the family and told them that we'd like to just give them a puppy if that was ok and also we wanted them to have first pick (always give God you're best, not your leftovers). They were completely blown away and were just so thankful. 

Well, we got to known them a little through the past few weeks and they live about 2 hours from us, but because of the puppy we've exchanged lots of email and texts and such. Well it's been my heart's desire to have family picture on the beach, but again it's just an extra thing and often times not something that is high on the priority list due to the cost. Well this lady is starting a photography business and said as a thank you she'd like to take our pictures!!! How cool is God, and the most amazing thing is that was only the beginning. 

We get to meet so many nice and amazing families through this business, it's really a blessing. We met this sweet couple who were just so excited about their new puppy. We actually only even received their phone call because of a flat tire. We were trying to get to church one Sunday and we went to leave and the van had a flat tire. So, Ryan ended  up staying home waiting for AAA and ended up taking a phone call (at a time we normally wouldn't even be home) from this couple. Even getting the phone call was just God working out a bad situation for our good.  They came out and picked their puppy and were just so kind to us and thankful. They picked their puppy and paid full price for it. A couple of days after the deposits were in on all the puppies God showed Ry and I that there was a family that we needed to bless. My flesh's first response was 'how?'. We were already cutting into our profit and we really did have some needs. During this time we found out that our 15 passenger van needed to be replaced, keep in mind we literally had $0 saved toward that. 

But again, we were given an opportunity to sow, and we took it. This time knowing and expecting that God knows what He is doing and He is more than able to figure out what we need. 

Well fast forward a couple weeks and its time for all the puppies to go home. Well that really sweet couple I told you about was coming for their little man. They had requested to come late one night when they got off of work. So, it was the end of the day for me and I was feeling a little tired; the puppies hadn't been sleeping the baby was teething and I was still dealing with lots of poop. So they come in and we were filling out all the paperwork and taking pictures and the lady says that she's going to run out to the car and out the stuff down then come back for the puppy. Well she comes back with a gift bag. Now this isn't completely unusual, sometimes our customers will bring a gift for the puppies parents some bones or a toy. It always blesses us so much. Well, they leave and I open the gift and there were some toys for Mercy and Samson and another package; I pulled the other package out and it was an IPad!!!

I've been wanting one for some time, but again not so much so that I wanted to spend $499 on it. This couple bought me an IPad to thank me for taking care of their puppy! God is so faithful. He cares so much about the desires of our hearts, He just wants us to trust Him. Sometimes that trust takes us out of our comfort zone, sometimes it requires more from us than we THINK we have to give. But He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him. 

My encouragement to you this week is to trust Him at a new level. He is just waiting for you to open up to Him ALL that you have, ALL that you want, and ALL that you don't have. Dream big this week take the limits off of Him. 

I can't tell you how blessed I was by the IPad. I think it blessed me so much cause it wasn't even a need it was just a want. He loves us so much He wants to bless us. I have confidence that He is going to take care of our need for a new van. If He took time to take care of a 'want' like an IPad how much more will He take care of the things we really need? Be excited and expecting His goodness to follow you this week.

Best part, my kids got to see that God cares about everything that they do!! Big or small.

<3 Faythe 

  

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Just DO It!!

Do everything without complaining or arguing.  Philippians 2:14

Have you ever just had that project or task that you are just dreading?  Dreading is defined as anticipation with great apprehension or fear. I've had a couple of those on my plate lately... things that weren't horrible but just things I had built up in my mind.  They hadn't started off as HUGE projects but I let my mind build them up to be by more than they were. I think thats why its so important to grab hold of the following scripture and let it take root in our hearts, to the point of changing our lives.  

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.  1 Corinthians 10:5


Think of your own situation, how often have you found that once you actually just bite the bullet and deal with something it completely looses its power.  The same mountain you had wasted so much time and mental energy on suddenly seems so small when you are on the other side of it.  That is how God saw it all along.  If we took His perspective more often we would be more quick to tackle those 'mountains'.
This also applies to spiritual things.  Has God ever showed or told you to do something?  Something that may initially excite you, but the more you 'think' about it the more it becomes unreachable.  God always wants us to 'need' Him and be aware of our need for Him. So often He asks us to do things that my seem beyond our abilities, or what WE think our abilities are.  We have to remind ourselves of all that we are able to do when the God of the universe is on our side and has instructed us to do something. 



I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.  Philippians 4:13

I was correcting one of my children today and they kept wanting to 'explain' to me why they disobeyed.  I had given a very direct and clear instruction and He (who was unaware of the WHOLE picture) ended up THINKING his was out of obeying.  The devil has learned no new tricks.  Just like he did with Eve in the garden. He is still using the same tricks, when will we, as Christians, start to OBEY.  I told my child today, I didn't ask you to THINK, I asked you to OBEY. 

Sometimes we need just buckle down and face those things God has told us to do.  This applies to even practical things!  There may be some things in your life right now that need to be dealt with.  They are within your realm of responsibility and of what God has you overseeing right now.  

I just want to encourage you to FACE those things.  Tell your mind to shut up, rest in God and His promises and do what He has called you to do.  Don't be 'talked' out of it in your mind.  If its your checkbook that needs to be done do it, if its your lesson plans for the school year do it, if its that dream that God has placed in your heart start taking steps to accomplish it, or that room that needs you to bring order to.  God will NEVER ask us to do something we are not equipped through Him to accomplish. If we changed the way we thought about the situation, the situation would come into perspective.  So often, the situation that started off as an ant hill that I transformed into a mountain really was not that bad when I just faced it!

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8

So as you go through your week remember that you are not alone!  You can accomplish ALL that He has asked of you and you can do it with JOY. Whatever situation financial, physical, emotional, or parenting situation know that you are more than equipped for every good work!

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Deut. 31:6


Now may the God of peace, who through the blood of the eternal covenant brought back from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great Shephard of the sheep, equip you with everything good for doing His will, and may He work in us what is pleasing to Him, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen.  Hebrews 13:20-21

BuRn OuT - UNNECESSARY

Matthew 11:28-30

The Message (MSG)

^28-30 “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

I would be lying if I told you that every day has been amazing lately.  I've honestly been just 'feeling' beat up by life.  There have been some changes to our schedule and responsibilities and it required different things of me. Although the changes are great and part of God's plan for our life I've been carrying them in my own strength. God never asked that of me. And honestly parenting has just been taking a lot out of me. 

So often I have found that when I begin to feel burned out (and I'm doing what God said to) its because I have taken my focus off of Him.  Why we would ever take our focus off of God and onto all the STUFF I don't understand, but at times it seems like an easy place to fall into.  Maybe its because the circumstances are often in our face screaming and God isn't like that, but whatever the reason I have to purpose my heart on Him.  It's a constant effort at first, but eventually it becomes like second nature to us. 

Matthew 11: 28-29 Then Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls" 

He has all that we need for anything we are going to face EVER!  So I encourage you to stay focused on Him and rest in His promises.  Its like when you watch a movie and as the story unfolds you find yourself getting concerned.  'Will this person make it?', 'will they end up together?', or 'how are they going to get themselves out of this one?'; the questions can race through our minds and often even affect us physically. Have you ever watched a movie like that and then watched it again with someone who has never seen it?  Isn't it so much easier to sit through the movie with them and remain calm, because you KNOW the ending.  You are completely confident that its all going to work out.  God knows the end from the beginning!!!

Isaiah 46:10 I make know the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, 'My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.'

The great news is that God has shared the ending with us.  His word reveals all that we need for life and godliness.  So if you feel anxious about a situation look in His word to see what it says your outcome will be.  Find a promise and stand and when you've done all keep standing.  

Ephesians 6:13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 

I think sometimes as a society we are too quick to give up. How would our world be different if Jesus had given up?  What if he got through the beatings, got through being nailed to the cross and then just decided I have obeyed close enough. So many times our 'breakthrough' or 'deliverance' is right around the corner and we just stop. We stop being consistent with our kids because it doesn't seem like its working, we give up on our diet because the results are not fast enough.  We stop because be are not confident in His promise. Keep reviewing the promise till it becomes more real than the situation. That is not denial, its acknowledging that God knows better and that He and His Word are always right.
Think back to the movie, how many times are there twists and turns and it just looks like its not going to work. A perfect show for twist and turns is 24, I always think Jack is going to die!  And I can get way to interested in that show; Ry and I will be watching it and I just keep thinking He's not going to make it this situation is just too bad. Thankfully, I have Ry with me and he always reminds me 'Faythe, there is another season; Jack can't die!'.    

Enjoy your week!  And remember when you start to feel the pressures of this world either in regards to parenting or finances or whatever, JUST STOP and focus on the One whose got this all set!! Give that child an extra hug and pray with them, they won't be hiding dirty clothes under their beds, or eating snots forever =)  Eventually all that you have put into them will bear fruit.  

Motherhood = Servanthood

So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit. Right now, therefore, every time we get the chance, let us work for the benefit of all, starting with the people closest to us in the community of faith. ~Galatians 6:9 & 10

Serving has never bothered me, its never been a struggle in the past.  Lately though, my attitude and heart just have not been where I want them to be or where God calls them to be.  I was growing tired in the well doing.  I felt like I was just working my tail off and it didn't seem to matter.  And it wasn't the recognition I was looking for, in fact, I really don't like recognition.  It makes me uncomfortable, but lately I just felt like  no one was thankful for me and that no one even realizes the effort I put into things. 

Do everything without grumbling or arguing. ~Philippians 2:14

Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. ~ 1 Peter 4:9

One night last week, while I was mopping the floors at 10 pm and finishing the dishes God reminded me that He sees. I realized at that moment, He's the only one that will ever fully understand or "get ' it anyways.  There is no one in this world who knows me better than Him, no one.  He knows when I'm at, what I may feel like, my breaking point and He can see the effort it takes for me to press on.  He created me.  A mechanic understands a car much better than me.  Have you ever had something go wrong with your car and you finally get around to taking it to the mechanic and he tells you how good it was that you came in when you did?  Or that if you hadn't gotten there when you did things could have really gone wrong.  Even if the car didn't seem that bad to you, he knows because he understands cars!  God knows cause He understands YOU! For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. ~ Psalms 139:13

So moms know that even if no one else seems to appreciate your serving, do it as unto the Lord!  Even if it means long days, long nights, endless laundry, and all that other "stuff" that seems so thankless you have the most amazing privilege and that is to love on the little people in your life!  God has entrusted you with special gifts and He gave them to you because no one else could do the job that you've been called to for that particular child.  There is something very reassuring in that for me, God chose me for this incredibly important job.  

God sees, God knows, and He's the most important One for you to please.  Rest in the call of servanthood He's placed on your life whatever that might be do it to the best of your ability.  Be faithful over the little and watch God work.  When serving always do it with love and the right attitude, don't let the devil rob you of your joy while serving.  Keep your heart and mind fixed on Him in everything you do, even the jobs you don't like very much =)  

    For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to          prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

~ Jeremiah 29:11

Lights Are Made to Shine, Shine Brightly!

^{Matthew 5:14-16} “Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.

  I've been so behind on my blogging, but its not for lack of ideas.  There have been several things God has been stirring in me but this one in particular is about not overly sheltering my kids.  Now before you leave the page and think horrible things about me, hear me out. 

  I as a parent, like most of you, have tried very hard to protect my children.  I've realized that I don't want them blind to the things of the world.  I homeschool them and stay home with them to try to teaching them the values that Ry and I believe in.  I want them to know why they believe what they believe.  My children are getting older and need to be aware of WHY we have done all that we have to teach and protect them.  The flip side of that is that we live in a world that constantly challenges what I have taught my children and I need to prep them for those challenges and some of the answers that worked in the past for Christians aren't enough anymore. 

I want my children to be a light, a light that shines brightly and effectively.  God has them in this world for such a time as this and I need to equip them as best as I can, and the only way to effectively and precisely train them is to be led by God's Holy Spirit.  He knows what each one of them has been called to do and accomplish in this world.  They will be facing things in harder times then I did growing up and I need a plan and guidance for each one of them.  

Matthew 21:22 : If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.

James 1:5 : If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 

  So Moms, as you face this great task, I encourage you to rely on the Holy Spirit and  talk through situations with your kids.  We can't always keep everything from our children, one of my kids heard about the Boston Bombing. I could have freaked out, or turned the radio off, or just have given a silly excuse.  Instead, God told me to use it as a learning tool, she asked why someone who do that, and I kept it simple but I was honest, because those men didn't live for God.  There's really no in between with God. If you are not living for Him fully you can end up in some BAD situations.  I was also able to remind her that even though what those men did was horrible, God still loves them and we need to remember that.  I would rather teach her about these things in my home than have someone else give them her take. 
  So many people dislike Christians because so many can be so hateful.  God doesn't hate the bombers He hates their sin. He doesn't hate the woman who had an abortion, He doesn't hate the thief, He doesn't hate couple who is living together and aren't married; God doesn't hate. We don't wrestle against flesh and blood but principalities. I think its such an important principle to teach our kids, don't hate, don't be quick to pass judgement, and never be rude.  I always want them to be able to identify sin but also to be able to see that there is a person involved and God LOVES people, so should we. If we can teach this next generation to LOVE; teach them to love God, love people, love truth and justice we can change the world. 

It can all be different...

My goal in my writing is to always, above all else, be honest with other moms.  The last few weeks I've really struggled.  I've struggled with normal every day things, broken appliances, parenting, working, lack of sleep, sick kiddos, being sick myself, a teething baby, and even ministry things.

I've been feeling like a rubber band that has been stretched and stretched and stretched some more.  I haven't fit the 'image' of the mom I think I should be.  I haven't been as patient, my smile hasn't quite been glued in place, and my attitude was feeling hopeless and tired.  

I know we have all been there, that time when there was more for you to do than you felt like you had to give.  The times where you've felt like all your friends were clueless as to what was happening in your life and you felt alone.  

I said all that to say this, you're not alone and in a moment it could all be different. I think so often we are so accustomed to looking at our circumstances that we forget 'the God factor'.  It sounds so silly to my mind, 'how could I ever forget God?'. Yet we do.  We forget about His abundant provision financial, physical strength, energy, and wisdom for parenting.  

I was thinking about the woman with the issue of blood in the Bible.  She had it was happening for YEARS!!  We're not talking about having a rough day... we're talking about YEARS!  But this woman had enough sense to include Jesus into her 'life equation'.  She knew that all she had to do was touch the hem of His garment and her life would be instantly changed.  

I want to challenge you to invite God back into the equation.  I know how it is when you just have so much happening and multiple situations that you feel need your attention. But, just stop and invite Him to move on your behalf.  When you are dealing with that toddler and you just want to scream, stop and invite Him in.  When you are trying to teach that child the same concept, for what feels like, the hundredth time invite Him in.  I've actually asked Him to help me plan my day.  I have a schedule and a list of what I would like accomplished but I have stopped to consciously ask Him, 'what do YOU want me to do today?'.  What house project would be best to work on today, which subject should I teach first, all these things are opportunities to let Him into your life and lead, teach, and guide you. 

The flip side of inviting Him to show you what to do, is that you also allow Him to tell you what NOT to do.  There are times that we overload our schedules and our expectations of ourselves and even our families. Because we have not asked Him what to do.  The best picture I can put to the concept is that of a child carrying a stack of dishes. You as the parent can see the vacuum cord and shoes on the floor, but your child can't.  He/She just keeps saying, 'I'm fine Mom I can do it put another on the top'.  The child (like us) can't see what is ahead or what circumstances may hinder our ability to safely get those dishes in the sink. God can see the WHOLE picture. He knows whats coming and He knows us better than we know ourselves.  Let's let Him guide our plans, our decisions, and our expectations. When we let Him lead us in these areas we'll experience true freedom in the area of comparing ourselves and our lives to those around us.  

And remember, when you are sure you are doing exactly what He has called you to do for this time and you still feel like you aren't seeing the results you want, keep pressing on!  Love Him more and spend more time with Him.  Trust Him more.  In one instant everything could be different, that thing you have been believing for could be right around the corner, trust Him more.  And having done all stand and trust Him more.

<3 Faythe

Don't Grow Weary, Find a Promise

~Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time with will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9 ~ ~Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Colossians 3:23 ~ Ok, so the question has been brought up 'what do I do when I'm doing all I can and I don't see the results'? I can completely relate!  That very feeling is what started me talking to God about this so much lately. I was really just fried and feeling at my whits end.  And I am not claiming to have all the answers, but I will share with you what God has been showing me. God showed me that: #1  - I needed to not say that what I was doing was not working. #2 - Speak things that are not as though they were (Romans. 4:17b)  Thats where the speaking His word over them comes in and speaking out loud who they are in Him. #3 Love them like Jesus loves me.  This part of it was huge for me.  God never gives up on me, not ever.  He loves me even when I blow it. He is consistently there steady and faithful and ready to give me His best all over again.  He never changes what He expects from me, but He's always ready to give me a fresh start.  God patiently works with me and in total love.  I'm trying to mimic that love to my kids. I've been really focusing on not saying things like ' you always do (blank)' or 'you've been doing this for months' or ' I'm tired of this behavior' #4 - Being consistant and not changing my standards but changing how I react to the children's behavior.  Often times I feel like parenting has more to do with teaching me than them.  Praying before reacting to them and letting the Holy Spirit lead me in how and when I correct them.  Being slow to anger and not just reacting but actually praying about how to handle a situation has not miraculously changed the initial behavior, but it has affected how my children receive the correction I give.  And that in the long run will affect the behavior. (James 1:19) #5 - Standing on God's word.  Finding a promise that applies to my children and meditating on that until it become more real to me than the circumstance/situations/behaviors I'm currently seeing. I've put written out some of the scriptures I've found below and I hope they are helpful.  Stay faithful and know that God is right here along side us as moms willing to help, lead, and guide us.  Spend time becoming aware of His presence with you at all times and be quick to obey even the smallest things He shows you.  Psalms 103:7 - But from everlasting to everlasting the Lord's love is with those who fear Him, and His righteousness with even their children's children. Isaiah 54:13 - And all of our children shall be taught of the Lord and great shall be their peace. Deuteronomy 7:9 - Know therefore that the Lord you God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love Hime and keep His commandments. Philippians 1:6 - being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Psalms 126:5 - Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy. Isaiah 40:31 - But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary,they will walk and not be faint. 1 Corinthians 15:58 - Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain. 2 Corinthians 4:1 - Therefore, since through God's mercy we have this ministry, we do not loose heart.  Isaiah 55:11 - So is my word that goes from my mouth: It will not return void, but it will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.  Ephesians 6:13 - Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand!

Oh the Power!

~Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that 

love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Proverbs 18:21~

Ouch!  God's been showing me so much about my parenting just with that one little scripture.  I'm going to be completely honest here and say there are times I have completely blown it parenting and 98% of the time it hasn't been my actions that were my pit fall, its been my mouth. And at times even my lack of speech. 

There have definitely been times where I have said hurtful things or been hurtful with my words towards my children.  I'm sure there are lots of parents who have said some things they regret.  But there is good news!!  Once we ask our children to forgive us and our God to forgive us we can begin again.  And instead of focusing on where you may have blown it, lets focus on where we can improve.  

God has been dealing with me about what I'm NOT saying.  I have really slacked at speaking God's word over my children, reminding them of who they are in Him and how He sees them. This not only helps our children but it also is a reminder to ourselves, as parents, about who are children really are.  I know I'm not the only one who, when my 3 year old is throwing a fit is not thinking 'this child is made in God's image and His likeness'.  I'm looking at the circumstances or behaviors and getting frustrated!

But God tells us in, Colossians 3:2-Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. I know that there are many times that I 'see' my children and some times other people in an earthly mindset.  I've been working hard to not just 'look' at my children as God looks at them but to tell them who God says they are. Its too easy to get caught up in the here and now, especially with parenting!  I know for me there are times that with 7 children parenting just seems so IN MY FACE!  Its easy to see all the areas I have to improve in and all the things they haven't learn yet.  In my strive for 'doing it right', I've focused too much on the behaviors and less on the heart condition.  

One of my children, who challenges me the most I've come to realize, just doesn't see who she is in Christ.  So although I'm still correcting her behaviors I'm coupling that with telling her who she is in Christ and teaching her to control her behavior based on who she is.  A princess doesn't run around the streets spray painting buildings. I mean, honestly, come on can you even picture Princess Kate doing such a thing?!!?!  The tabloids would have a field day.  Its the same with our children when you know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that God loves you and wants you to show that love to others; you'll think twice about hitting your sister and snatching her toy.  Make it all point back to Him, thats what this is all about anyways.

I'm not saying I've perfected this, but thankfully this life is a journey with a new opportunity every minute to do the right thing.  Love on your babies and see them as Jesus does fits and all.  Remember your vision for your family, write it down, and review it and know that 'You can do all things, through Christ who gives you strength'!  

<3